I feel like there is so much misunderstanding around what it is to really love and take care of yourself.
Loving yourself is and respecting and honoring yourself. Definition of Respecting: Feeling of deep admiration for someone or
something elicited by their abilities, qualities or achievements.
Definition of Honoring: Regard with great respect. Fulfilling an obligation or keeping an agreement.
1) Do you respect yourself? Do you have deep admiration for yourself? Do you recognize your awesome abilities, qualities or achievements? We all have things that are fundamental gifts for us to share with the world. Have you recognized yours for your own amazingness to give to the world? Have you seen and witnessed your own unique qualities that make you you? We are all way too hard on ourselves and other people will often see our amazingness and give us so much credit but we don't give it to ourselves at all! Can you sit down and recognize your achievements or is it challenging for you to even look past your criticism of yourself to see the beauty in you life and yourself? Think about these things...tell yourself the truth and start to really move into the respect and love of yourself...
2) Do you Honor yourself? Do you regard and TREAT yourself with great respect? Do you have deep admiration for yourself, just for being yourself? If not, why not? You deserve it! You are amazing and beautiful, just as you are! Know it, own it, love it! Do you fulfill obligations and agreements that you have made for yourself with yourself? Do you plan to go do something for you and then you back out and do something for someone else instead? Why? Don't you matter just as much as they do? Maybe more...also...keeping agreements with yourself makes you more in integrity and more reliable energetically, which is really what we all want to portray in the world when we go help them anyway...
Love yourSelf. Take care of your Spirit and Soul. Take care of your Body, what our Souls show up in in this life and how we express ourselves and what we feel and think about ourselves in this life...Love all of you: "the good, the bad and the ugly". We all come into this life with gifts and challenges and most often, our biggest challenges are are our biggest gifts...Love it all, own it all, BE it all! You already are anyway, so embrace it and wear it proudly! Embodied Confidence! You CAN do it! Know you can! Let me know if I can help you. I am here to serve...
Sunday, January 11, 2015
Sunday, January 4, 2015
Love your Body. Love yourSelf. Love your Life.: Love your Body.
Love your Body. Love yourSelf. Love your Life.
I have been developing and refining my business and my own stand alone brand for the last 3 years. I can tell you, it is quite a journey and it's not for the faint of heart. There are many many times along the way that I wanted to give up...I wanted a break...I wanted some help...I didn't want to do it any more, in any way shape or form, any-more. Having and developing ones own business and personality brand is a 24/7 job and one doesn't get a break.
It's a constant: refining of my message (within myself and in the world at large), learning of new things that I had no idea how to do previously, pushing of my edges, continuous noticing of what I'm doing...all of my interactions with people...how I can improve personally and professionally...what I need to shift and what's really not mine to begin with...an unending challenging of my comfort zones and rewiring of long entrenched beliefs and old stuff in my way.
Along the way, I have learned literally countless things.
One big learning and embodying I've gained is the understanding of one of my Tag lines: Love your Body. Love yourSelf. Love your Life. I have come to understand that there is this absolute delicate balance with this piece for all of us. Let's take each piece of this statement and explore...
Love your Body. I feel there is a big disconnect with what this means for many many people. I have noticed the association with this reference is to just let ones body be, no matter how healthy and fit it is in general. NOW, my evolved understanding of this is that while it is not necessarily about the size or weight of someone's body, it is absolutely the journey and self-expression of what makes one feel great in one's body.
1) It is imperative that we exercise and move our bodies to be healthy. For some people, this is cross-fit...for some it is dancing...for some running marathons...for some it is pilates. Learning what is best for you is loving YOUR body.
2) It is imperative that we find what works best for us in our eating choices. for some people this is Paleo...for some it is whole grains and lots of veggies...for some it is doing a diet and body cleanse whenever they are feeling that they need to. There is no one way for everyBody and intuitively finding what your body craves to be at it's optimum best is you loving YOUR body.
3) It is imperative that you come to know when u need a break and when other people are projecting their beliefs about you and how you do your life (which are actually a direct reflection of their own beliefs about themselves in some way) onto you. (believe me, I have gotten really really good at this one! If I can help you discover this for yourself, please let me know!). Get really good at listening to your own knowing about when you just need to stop...when u need to slow down...when u need to go full on in every way...and if maybe in general, you and your body can just go and have more of a capacity for everything and lots of energy than someone else does...Or maybe you have less...
In conclusion, it's all about you becoming clear in listening to your Body. Become confident that it will not lie to you or steer you wrong if you listen and trust. The path to Embodied Confidence is getting really clear on knowing that you know: body, mind and soul.
Next week we will play with what it is to "Love yourSelf." Have fun developing what your own "Love your Body." is!
I have been developing and refining my business and my own stand alone brand for the last 3 years. I can tell you, it is quite a journey and it's not for the faint of heart. There are many many times along the way that I wanted to give up...I wanted a break...I wanted some help...I didn't want to do it any more, in any way shape or form, any-more. Having and developing ones own business and personality brand is a 24/7 job and one doesn't get a break.
It's a constant: refining of my message (within myself and in the world at large), learning of new things that I had no idea how to do previously, pushing of my edges, continuous noticing of what I'm doing...all of my interactions with people...how I can improve personally and professionally...what I need to shift and what's really not mine to begin with...an unending challenging of my comfort zones and rewiring of long entrenched beliefs and old stuff in my way.
Along the way, I have learned literally countless things.
One big learning and embodying I've gained is the understanding of one of my Tag lines: Love your Body. Love yourSelf. Love your Life. I have come to understand that there is this absolute delicate balance with this piece for all of us. Let's take each piece of this statement and explore...
Love your Body. I feel there is a big disconnect with what this means for many many people. I have noticed the association with this reference is to just let ones body be, no matter how healthy and fit it is in general. NOW, my evolved understanding of this is that while it is not necessarily about the size or weight of someone's body, it is absolutely the journey and self-expression of what makes one feel great in one's body.
1) It is imperative that we exercise and move our bodies to be healthy. For some people, this is cross-fit...for some it is dancing...for some running marathons...for some it is pilates. Learning what is best for you is loving YOUR body.
2) It is imperative that we find what works best for us in our eating choices. for some people this is Paleo...for some it is whole grains and lots of veggies...for some it is doing a diet and body cleanse whenever they are feeling that they need to. There is no one way for everyBody and intuitively finding what your body craves to be at it's optimum best is you loving YOUR body.
3) It is imperative that you come to know when u need a break and when other people are projecting their beliefs about you and how you do your life (which are actually a direct reflection of their own beliefs about themselves in some way) onto you. (believe me, I have gotten really really good at this one! If I can help you discover this for yourself, please let me know!). Get really good at listening to your own knowing about when you just need to stop...when u need to slow down...when u need to go full on in every way...and if maybe in general, you and your body can just go and have more of a capacity for everything and lots of energy than someone else does...Or maybe you have less...
In conclusion, it's all about you becoming clear in listening to your Body. Become confident that it will not lie to you or steer you wrong if you listen and trust. The path to Embodied Confidence is getting really clear on knowing that you know: body, mind and soul.
Next week we will play with what it is to "Love yourSelf." Have fun developing what your own "Love your Body." is!
Sunday, December 14, 2014
The Gift
It's the Holidays. Again. Wow.
So, this time of year is all about gifts. What does a gift represent?
According to Wikipedia: A gift...is an item given to someone without the expectation of payment. Although gift-giving might involve an expectation of reciprocity, a gift is meant to be free...By extension the term gift can refer to anything that makes the other happier or less sad, especially as a favor, including forgiveness and kindness...
The thought of a Gift also made me immediately think of the amazing song by Annie Lennox, "THE GIFT". This song just touches me to my soul and in every single cell of my body. I wanted to include the lyrics for you:
Darling don't you understand
I feel so ill at ease
The room is full of silence and it's getting hard to breathe
Take this guilted cage of pain and set me free
Take this overcoat of shame
It never did belong to me
It never did belong to me
I need to go outside
I need to leave the smoke
'cause I can't go on living in this same sick joke
It seems our lives have taken on a different kind of twist
Now that you have given me the perfect gift
You have given me the gift
For we have fallen from our shelves
To face the truth about ourselves
And we have tumbled from our trees
Tumbled from our trees
And I can almost...
I can almost feel the rain falling
Don't you know it feels so good
So let's go out into the rain again
Just like we said we always would
This year was an entire year of complete Internal Transformation for me (as well as MANY people I know and have been blessed to work with). It has been brutal, amazing, beautiful, unbelievable, and absolute reflection of all of the work I've done my entire life. I am thankful for all of the gifts that: on the surface appeared to make me more sad, made me absolutely joyful, dropped me into myself in beyond profound ways, others gave me (intentionally and just by being in my life) and that I gave myself. In fact, I have recently given myself a gift that is going to push me bigger and farther than the former me could have EVER even allowed myself to imagine.
What gifts have you received during this year? What gifts were you hoping for? What gifts have you given yourself? What gifts have you NOT given yourself? What gift can I help you receive for yourself? What gifts are you not allowing yourself to have, even though they are staring you in the face, begging to give to you? Why keep them from yourself? Are you letting fear stop you from your truth and being released from that guilted cage of pain and set free? Are you holding onto some OLD overcoat of shame that EVERYONE but you knows doesn't at all fit you anymore but you are holding onto it, no matter what?! Don't hold yourself from your Fabulousness just because you are afraid of getting there. The other side is so worth the Journey, I promise. C'mon out, it's Fabulous our here when you just GIVE YOURSELF THAT GIFT that you know will unlock EVERYTHING for YOU!
Much much love and gratitude for every gift I receive for having every one of you touch my life, in ANY way...
So, this time of year is all about gifts. What does a gift represent?
According to Wikipedia: A gift...is an item given to someone without the expectation of payment. Although gift-giving might involve an expectation of reciprocity, a gift is meant to be free...By extension the term gift can refer to anything that makes the other happier or less sad, especially as a favor, including forgiveness and kindness...
The thought of a Gift also made me immediately think of the amazing song by Annie Lennox, "THE GIFT". This song just touches me to my soul and in every single cell of my body. I wanted to include the lyrics for you:
Darling don't you understand
I feel so ill at ease
The room is full of silence and it's getting hard to breathe
Take this guilted cage of pain and set me free
Take this overcoat of shame
It never did belong to me
It never did belong to me
I need to go outside
I need to leave the smoke
'cause I can't go on living in this same sick joke
It seems our lives have taken on a different kind of twist
Now that you have given me the perfect gift
You have given me the gift
For we have fallen from our shelves
To face the truth about ourselves
And we have tumbled from our trees
Tumbled from our trees
And I can almost...
I can almost feel the rain falling
Don't you know it feels so good
So let's go out into the rain again
Just like we said we always would
This year was an entire year of complete Internal Transformation for me (as well as MANY people I know and have been blessed to work with). It has been brutal, amazing, beautiful, unbelievable, and absolute reflection of all of the work I've done my entire life. I am thankful for all of the gifts that: on the surface appeared to make me more sad, made me absolutely joyful, dropped me into myself in beyond profound ways, others gave me (intentionally and just by being in my life) and that I gave myself. In fact, I have recently given myself a gift that is going to push me bigger and farther than the former me could have EVER even allowed myself to imagine.
What gifts have you received during this year? What gifts were you hoping for? What gifts have you given yourself? What gifts have you NOT given yourself? What gift can I help you receive for yourself? What gifts are you not allowing yourself to have, even though they are staring you in the face, begging to give to you? Why keep them from yourself? Are you letting fear stop you from your truth and being released from that guilted cage of pain and set free? Are you holding onto some OLD overcoat of shame that EVERYONE but you knows doesn't at all fit you anymore but you are holding onto it, no matter what?! Don't hold yourself from your Fabulousness just because you are afraid of getting there. The other side is so worth the Journey, I promise. C'mon out, it's Fabulous our here when you just GIVE YOURSELF THAT GIFT that you know will unlock EVERYTHING for YOU!
Much much love and gratitude for every gift I receive for having every one of you touch my life, in ANY way...
Thursday, November 27, 2014
Feelings and Gratitude...
SO it's Thanksgiving 2014.
WOW. As I sit here and organize my home (which I never have time for!), I'm torn about how I feel about that.
On the one hand, I am SO thankful for everything that is in my Life and has come into it this year. I've had: this year be a big rebuilding after the complete devastation of 2013; a big jump in my growth of living from trust and confidence in myself, the universe and my path; an amazing best girl friend who supports me and believes in me beyond ALL reason and literally more than anyone has in my life; a strong, supportive man who has helped me step into all that I am and into me getting very clear about my message in so many ways, as well as helped me grow my business; 2 wonderful visits home to be with my family whom I adore; the support of a community of very powerful and loving people; finding and joining a new organization that will help me grow personally and my business exponentially; so many people on my team helping me with the things I don't have time for or that my brain just doesn't function to do; my boy dog and I have formed a new bond after my girl dog died; so many awesome people I'm working with in Joint Ventures to create inspiring programming; getting many old mistakes and unneeded and energy sucking drama cleared out of my life; knowing, seeing that it is all coming together and glimpsing how, even if it's not completely in focus and here yet...
On the other hand, I miss my family and have had tremendous heart-break, loss and lessons in my life this year: I just lost a very dear person in my life and my heart is so tender from this; I have had a manipulative, controlling man trying to control me with everything he has, creating lots of drama in my life just by his energetic presence in it and really hitting me where it hurts the deepest in order to try to damage control the ruining of his "reputation" because I see him for who he truly is and I won't tolerate it; this year has been hard in so many ways and I have learned to be humble so many times; I've had to learn time and time again to live by the Four Agreements; I have had to make difficult decisions financially; finances have been beyond challenging; I've had to put on my big girl panties over and over and just move forward in every way.
Life moves as you move.
My message here? It's ALL valid, my friends.
REFLECTIONS
The saddest thing of all is sadness, when it is unfelt, neglected, unmet, rejected. Sorrow, without a home, is truly sorrowful to behold.
We get angry at ourselves for feeling anger. We fear fear, its intensity, its immediacy, its imagined power to overwhelm.
WOW. As I sit here and organize my home (which I never have time for!), I'm torn about how I feel about that.
On the one hand, I am SO thankful for everything that is in my Life and has come into it this year. I've had: this year be a big rebuilding after the complete devastation of 2013; a big jump in my growth of living from trust and confidence in myself, the universe and my path; an amazing best girl friend who supports me and believes in me beyond ALL reason and literally more than anyone has in my life; a strong, supportive man who has helped me step into all that I am and into me getting very clear about my message in so many ways, as well as helped me grow my business; 2 wonderful visits home to be with my family whom I adore; the support of a community of very powerful and loving people; finding and joining a new organization that will help me grow personally and my business exponentially; so many people on my team helping me with the things I don't have time for or that my brain just doesn't function to do; my boy dog and I have formed a new bond after my girl dog died; so many awesome people I'm working with in Joint Ventures to create inspiring programming; getting many old mistakes and unneeded and energy sucking drama cleared out of my life; knowing, seeing that it is all coming together and glimpsing how, even if it's not completely in focus and here yet...
On the other hand, I miss my family and have had tremendous heart-break, loss and lessons in my life this year: I just lost a very dear person in my life and my heart is so tender from this; I have had a manipulative, controlling man trying to control me with everything he has, creating lots of drama in my life just by his energetic presence in it and really hitting me where it hurts the deepest in order to try to damage control the ruining of his "reputation" because I see him for who he truly is and I won't tolerate it; this year has been hard in so many ways and I have learned to be humble so many times; I've had to learn time and time again to live by the Four Agreements; I have had to make difficult decisions financially; finances have been beyond challenging; I've had to put on my big girl panties over and over and just move forward in every way.
My message here? It's ALL valid, my friends.
REFLECTIONS
The saddest thing of all is sadness, when it is unfelt, neglected, unmet, rejected. Sorrow, without a home, is truly sorrowful to behold.
We get angry at ourselves for feeling anger. We fear fear, its intensity, its immediacy, its imagined power to overwhelm.
It’s confusing to attempt to not feel confusion when confusion is
burning in us. The most frustrating thing of all is trying to make
frustration disappear immediately, desiring the absence of desire.
Our greatest pain is our resistance to pain, the refusal of the living fact of pain; our unwillingness to stare life in the face, unblinking.
Only a thought would say, “this thought shouldn’t be here”. Only an imagined mind would want to be “free from mind”. Only the ego would want to go beyond ego.
Taste raw life directly, without judgement, or judgement of judgement of judgement. Or, allow all judgement, even judgement of all judgement.
Our experience is always reflective. But the Heart is forever open.
– Jeff Foster
Feel it all. Be grateful for it all. Be it all...it is all a part of us, we cannot seperate ourselves from our feelings, any more than we can separate our hearts from our bodies...and why would we want to?
Where in your life so you hold yourself back from growth and change, from getting what you really want, from being all that you can be, from fully stepping into Your BEST you in every way you can be? I encourage to not. Live full-out my friends. I strive to every single day. Every single minute. I challenge myself in every second and I am super grateful that I have embraced this. Live full out. Why not?
"I want it to say, 'All used up" on my gravestone." Larry Winget.
Don't you!?
Our greatest pain is our resistance to pain, the refusal of the living fact of pain; our unwillingness to stare life in the face, unblinking.
Only a thought would say, “this thought shouldn’t be here”. Only an imagined mind would want to be “free from mind”. Only the ego would want to go beyond ego.
Taste raw life directly, without judgement, or judgement of judgement of judgement. Or, allow all judgement, even judgement of all judgement.
Our experience is always reflective. But the Heart is forever open.
– Jeff Foster
Feel it all. Be grateful for it all. Be it all...it is all a part of us, we cannot seperate ourselves from our feelings, any more than we can separate our hearts from our bodies...and why would we want to?
Where in your life so you hold yourself back from growth and change, from getting what you really want, from being all that you can be, from fully stepping into Your BEST you in every way you can be? I encourage to not. Live full-out my friends. I strive to every single day. Every single minute. I challenge myself in every second and I am super grateful that I have embraced this. Live full out. Why not?
"I want it to say, 'All used up" on my gravestone." Larry Winget.
Sunday, November 16, 2014
Surrender-The Ultimate Feminine
First,
I wanted to share the most powerful tool that we have in our lives to
bringing in and creating the biggest and best lives possible as well
as to really create not only what we desire, but what our soul is
longing to create in our lives, for us:
Surrender:
to yield power; to return, restore or resign. Yield to a higher
power, a higher knowing within yourself.
Give
up resistance and get out of your own way.
Relinquish
control of your logical mind. Are you limiting yourself to what
appears to be logical? Don't let your ego interfere with being open
to your intuitive self. Take time to release old belief systems and
self-inflicted limitations and welcome new possibilities.
Free
yourself by turning loose any worries or fears that may be holding
you back. Release them to the Universe.
Give
up control. Move away from Judgements or expectations, and
limitations will be removed. Don't push too hard. Let go and place
faith in Spirit.
Can
you accept the fear that comes at the edge of the unknown? Are you
prepared to take the risk? New directions are often revealed just
when you're most scared and most in need of them.
It
is through surrender that you will be provided with a rendering of
the splendid adventure ahead.
Second,
I just want to draw the parallel of true Surrender in our lives with
stepping into The Yin, the Feminine Energetic aspect of us all:
the sacred, the Feminine (self and connection with others) loving and
appreciating all of you and receiving; holding space for, allowing,
softening, setting/honoring boundaries from the space of Love and
being Centered and Embodied from this true place of Power. The
Feminine is simply the
Energetic
of going within, the turning inward while sensing, knowing and being
guided from within...the turning inward...
The
Sacred Feminine is not only vulnerable, tender, nourishing,
cherishing, patient and sweet-hearted, but also ferocious, prophetic
and brave. She is not afraid to stand firmly, even fight for, what
she wants and believes in, but she also inherently listens to and
knows the path of least resistance, that of the “all that is” and
can instinctively go with the flow for the greater good. holding
space, waiting, soft, centered, grounded, open. Being the fullness
and majesty that you truly are, healing the wounds and kinks in your
heart so that you can heal others, owning your full space in the
world and showing your sisters the way.
Step
into All of you. Allow. Create. Listen. Know. Find wonder and
fascination. Believe and Live in magic...it’s much more fun...
Sunday, November 9, 2014
Ordinary or extraordinary? Your choice.
Life will never ask you to do everything it takes. Life will always ask u to do everything u r willing to do.-Larry Winget
The greatest thing u can ever achieve in your life is excellence. It's easy to be ordinary. There's lots of ordinary put there; ordinary settles for the comfortable and safe. It takes willingness, hunger and openness to achieve Extraordinary. To get to extraordinary and excellence, you have to REALLY want it and you have to have the COMMITMENT to get there, period.
Mastery is about repetition, it's about banging on your craft. It's about having a goal, a vision, a burning desire and crafting a path and a plan to get there. Period. Creativity and innovation are required in creating all of these and Whether its creating a new business, changing your body, changing your life, changing your business or interpersonal relationships...getting ANYTHING you want In your life...it requires commitment, determination, a plan and focus to bring them into reality in this dimension.
Ready, Willing and Able: The only thing that stands between u and what u want is what u r willing to do. Dreams do not come true. Plans come true. -Larry Winget
Everyone says they are ready. Everyone is absolutely able. Not everyone is willing. Do you have the willingness to stay with it and get it done? Do you have the willingness to do whatever it takes to get where you want to go? Are you WILLING to do whatever it takes?
Willingness is vulnerability. Vulnerability is knowing and admitting that you don't know everything. Vulnerability with willingness, now that can change the world! Catch there is...all we have direct control of is ourselves. We change the world changing us...one person at a time...
Just think, if we all commit, If we are all willing, If we all come from the space of total vulnerability and openness...wow. Think how amazing and AMAZING we would all be. Think how amazing...beyond amazing the world would be.
It all starts with us...ourselves. So, I know you are ready. I know you are able. Are...you...willing? Join me in committing all if it for yourself!
Sunday, November 2, 2014
Feminine Power in Movement
Feminine Power in Movement
The Feminine, at it's very very simplest essence, is inward energy. The Yin Energy is the piece of us that knows, feels, flows, takes care of us and those closest to us. It is holding space, waiting, soft, centered, grounded, open and being the fullness and majesty that you truly are.
It is healing the wounds and kinks in your heart so that you can heal others, owning your full space in the world and showing your sisters the way.
Feminine power in movement is: moving your body from it's intrinsic core, from your knowing what your body needs, from and for what works for your body and not, from what is honoring you and challenging you and the balance of pushing that edge while respecting yourself (your body, your fears and yourSelf). It is NOT letting yourself off the hook, not doing, giving or getting your best...in fact, it is the opposite.
The Sacred Feminine is not only tender, nourishing, cherishing, patient and sweet-hearted, but also ferocious, prophetic, brave and will shout and bang on the table like a wild lioness towards anyone or anything that threatens the emotional, physical and psychological health of people and the world.
Do you move from this true place of honoring yourself and your body when doing your exercise and movement program? Do you come from the place of force and expecting yourself to just be able to do something that you and/or your body just can't yet? Moving from the place of force and unrealistic won't truly change anything...moving from the place of honor and working with and connection just might change EVERYTHING.
The Feminine, at it's very very simplest essence, is inward energy. The Yin Energy is the piece of us that knows, feels, flows, takes care of us and those closest to us. It is holding space, waiting, soft, centered, grounded, open and being the fullness and majesty that you truly are.
It is healing the wounds and kinks in your heart so that you can heal others, owning your full space in the world and showing your sisters the way.
Feminine power in movement is: moving your body from it's intrinsic core, from your knowing what your body needs, from and for what works for your body and not, from what is honoring you and challenging you and the balance of pushing that edge while respecting yourself (your body, your fears and yourSelf). It is NOT letting yourself off the hook, not doing, giving or getting your best...in fact, it is the opposite.
The Sacred Feminine is not only tender, nourishing, cherishing, patient and sweet-hearted, but also ferocious, prophetic, brave and will shout and bang on the table like a wild lioness towards anyone or anything that threatens the emotional, physical and psychological health of people and the world.
Do you move from this true place of honoring yourself and your body when doing your exercise and movement program? Do you come from the place of force and expecting yourself to just be able to do something that you and/or your body just can't yet? Moving from the place of force and unrealistic won't truly change anything...moving from the place of honor and working with and connection just might change EVERYTHING.
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